BLACK MEN IN AMERICA CAN'T WIN IF THEY HATE BLACK WOMEN (CIVIL WAR)

BLACK MEN IN AMERICA CAN'T WIN IF THEY HATE BLACK WOMEN (CIVIL WAR)

Sources:  CentricTV, Essence, The Root, Youtube

Video Highlights:

Debating the destructive, self-imposed civil war within the Black American community between Black men and women.

United We Stand; Divided We Fall!

**** WHAT IS BLACK MEN'S BEEF WITH BLACK WOMEN?

The myth of the 'angry Black woman' is driving a wedge between the sexes

Black men have seemingly declared war on Black women, and it's getting real. 

It's no secret that the battle of the sexes is something that's existed since Adam blamed Eve for biting that godforsaken forbidden fruit. For centuries,  men and women have been at odds over their biological and psychological differences, both legitimate and naught.

For men and women of color, however, the stakes seem to be at an all-time high. Whether it's baby mama vs. baby daddy drama or the delicate topic of dating outside one's race, Black men and Black women just can't seem to see to eye to eye.

Just look at the way critics (mostly men) came to the defense of rapper Future and assailed a social media attack against Ciara for bringing their young son around her new boyfriend, NFL star Russell Wilson.

 Ciara was publically shamed for something that (1) is no one's business and (2) an absolute double standard, as the singer pointed out during an interview on CBS "This Morning."

"It's been very interesting to hear what a lot of guys have had to say," Ciara said. "I feel like in a sense it's a bit of a double standard, because at one point in time when we were together, I took care of his kids as well."

"I was involved very early in the stage of us getting to know each other, and that's been a big conversation. It's kind of like, 'Well, what's the difference here?'" she added. "I think that even for the men that were outspoken, it's like, wouldn't you want someone to love on your child, or love on the child that you are speaking about?"

But of course Black male critics of Ciara don't see the double standard. When do they ever recognize the unfair standards and expectations they place on Black women? 

While women of color continue to be the backbones for their male counterparts and their families, they continue to bad mouth Black women as if it was not a Black woman who pushed them out of their vagina. 

In their eyes, Black women are “angry,” “crazy” and just about any other not-so-flattering adjective you can think of.

Writer Niki McGloster touched on this very topic in a Facebook post bemoaning a text conversation she had with a Black man stemming from a comment she made about a nude picture of Kim Kardashian. 

After saying Kardashian was fishing for attention the unidentified male accused her, and Black women, of being angry "mean girls." 

That debate turned into an exchange about how Black women hate white women for being white and liking "Black" things, whether it's a Black man, Black music or Black hairstyles.

"What i can't pinpoint is when some (i'd never say all) black men started hating black women? i'd like a date or a reference point," McGloster wrote on Facebook. "it's clear that black men are jaded about who we are, what we stand for and why we speak up about certain things."

Quite honestly if Black women are at the very least irritated they have every reason to be. Look at the way they are misunderstood, misrepresented and ridiculed. 

What's most heartbreaking is that a lot of that pushback comes from Black men themselves. 

And for any man of color that wants to perpetuate the notion that Black women are "angry," just imagine if white America said that very same thing about Blacks (and they do) when objecting to the racial injustice presently on display within the Black Lives Matter movement.

It's truly a sad day in Black America that (some) Black men can't seem to stand in solidarity with Black women. 

Because if they won't stand up, who will?

  

STRONG BLACK WOMEN & OTHER MYTHS ABOUT 21ST CENTURY BLACK AMERICA

STRONG BLACK WOMEN & OTHER MYTHS ABOUT 21ST CENTURY BLACK AMERICA

BEFORE WE ARE STRONG, BLACK PEOPLE ARE HUMAN BEINGS FIRST.

Sources: The New Black Magazine, TheNIB.com, Youtube

In the video above I address the centuries old myth of how American society has frequently used the phrase "Strong Black Women" as an excuse to continue forcing Black Women to accept Abuse, Disrespect and Poverty versus living their lives as the Queens they were created by GOD to be.

Contrary to popular propaganda broadcasted about Black Women by the Mainstream Media:

Black Women are not resilient and strong when their Sons are Murdered due to Police Brutality or Gang Violence.

Black Women are not resilient and strong when their Sons are sentenced to Prison for petty, non-homicidal crimes.

Black Women are not resilient and strong when our Black Men can't find JOBS due to RACISM.

Black Women are not resilient and strong 24 hours a day.

Black Women are human beings first who need love, relaxation and time to heal from our losses or from being overworked.

***** Black Women Mythology

The myth of the STRONG BLACK WOMAN (SBW) is so simple and so clear that it is somewhat amazing that we are still bamboozled.

The myth of the STRONG BLACK WOMAN (SBW) is so simple and so clear that it is somewhat amazing that we are still bamboozled.

You see, we - being the black women who are the “johns” of this particular scam - think that being an SBW is something to which one should aspire; we feel complimented when we are included in the category of others similarly valorized; and we blame ourselves for any indication that we are falling below the standards of the SBW.

Is this not the most delicious trick ever played on anyone? 

The greatest achievement the rest of the world ever achieved was convincing black women that SBW existed, and that our job was to grow up into one. Black women are raised to be SBW in the most exemplary fashion possible, and faithfully to remain one without pause or rest until the grim reaper relieved us of the burdens of our mortality.

It is really terrifyingly, astonishingly and ineffably well-crafted, this myth. Insofar as, so long as we are kept either desiring, or believing ourselves actually to be, Strong Black Women, there is no amount of pure nonsense, abuse, overwork, ingratitude, exploitation, underappreciation, and just plain shit that we will not put up with. 

You see, SBW, of course, can make $10 stretch into meals for a week, clothes for everyone, payment of bills, and school fees, etc.,— this is just a well known and, indeed, required characteristic of SBW. 

SBW are, by nature, ready, nay, eager to work five jobs at a time so as to feed and clothe their nearest and dearest without expecting, and more properly, absolutely rejecting any help. 

One has, after all, one’s pride as a Strong Black Woman. SBW are also expected to give command performances as free, endlessly sympathetic and reliable therapists, counselors, substitute mothers, and wise women, who willingly provide free emotional and mental labour to everyone else.

You have a problem? Go and cry on an SBW shoulder, which is guaranteed (why else are they SBW?) to be there, to provide cleenex, food and appropriate ego validation and finally, to manage to complete the four hours worth of work interrupted and delayed by your tales of woe. 

This function of the SBW is usually taken advantage of by non-Strong Black Women  This is because of course non-SBW’s problems are real and agonizing, 

SBW, it is understood, do not suffer emotionally as much as the other, more fragile and helpless non-SBW population: because they are strong, and thus, better able to endure better. 

This is like having a bullet-proof vest when the shooting starts: the unprotected get to scream and wail and run for cover whilst the SBW who are already armoured and thus have no fear, should promptly assume their assigned rescue service, feeding service, administrative, and problem-solving roles. 

Whence, in addition to everything else, comes the ugly fact that SBW are granted less time for grieving, assumed to have less sense of loss and suffering and required to have a faster recovery time from trauma than everybody else, so that they can go and take care of the anguish and malaise of others. Well, naturally. It is an SBW thing: you wouldn't understand and are very careful not even to try.

Do you know how much crap that a black woman has had to go through? 

Do we ever ask ourselves what sort of toll it took on her, what scars were left, whether she ever needed to lock herself in the bathroom and weep, if she ever thought of giving up and why she didn't? 

Do you know what demons plagued her at night whilst the world slept, what private spaces of knowing pain and knowing suffering her poetry comes from? 

Whether she ever lost her faith and her certainty in the cause, and if, indeed, by now she is not so tired by all those years of giving, giving and giving--to us?

Many of us who have or have had the kind of mothers or aunts or honorary aunts whom we admire and who make us proud and to whom we owe everything – those we see as Strong Black Women.

Whilst acknowledging all their sacrifices, their struggles overcome and their achievements, have you ever thought that they accomplished then not because of some spurious “extra” strength but despite the weaknesses common to us all? 

I’ve thought of my own mother, whom I have idolized my whole life, because she did just amazing things. 

She was the first this and the first that. She was the only African woman ever to do x. She left a lasting legacy through her work in y. She also managed to bring me up, protect and shelter me, and mould me into a competent human being.

But what about her life? 

How often do I ask myself if she was ever frightened, insecure, confused, lost? How often do I ask if she ever yearned for opportunities lost, regretted decisions made, missed absent friends? 

The answer to that would be “once.” Today. 

Because before today, she was just absolutely perfect and pristine. Before today I would have reacted to such a suggestion of human failings and fears in my mother with snorting and indignant incredulity—except I realised how wrong that would be. Pedestals do not really give one much room to move or to be.

The problem with the myth of the SBW is this. It falsely supposes that SBW have powers, skills and capacities beyond those of ordinary mortals - sort of like super heroes – 

So much so that their achievements are not as difficult to attain as they would be for others and somehow inhere in the very quality of SBW-ness, itself. 

When you look at this logic for long enough, it becomes pretty obvious that we don’t need to thank SBW or even to congratulate them. 

After all, they have only achieved what their innate SBW-ness allows, nay, compels them to achieve. Where is the agency of these women here? How do we honour them by making their achievements banal by not contextualizing them in human frailty? 

If Superman leaps over a tall building at a single bound, well, yawn, stretch and change the channel. If I were ever to leap over a tall building at a single bound, I would expect some serious attention, astonishment, adoration and for everyone to realise that having done all this leaping about, I would fairly obviously need a good long rest.

Conversely, I most certainly would not appreciate having immediately presented to me another building, over which I am also expected to leap without question or hesitation.

Well, that is it for me. 

Strong Black Women are permanently off the list of things that I want to be when I grow up. I am going to treasure and revel in and treat tenderly all my weaknesses and mistakes and failures—all of which I have in amazingly copious quantities - because they make my achievements that much more precious to me.

Let the age of the Weak Black Women begin!

PAT MCCROY vs THE MEDIA (NC HOUSE BILL 2 MYTHS & FACTS)

HOUSE BILL 2 - GOV PAT MCCROY vs THE MEDIA (MYTHS & FACTS):

NC REP DAN BISHOP EXPLAINS THE BILL & REVEALS HOW MEDIA IS LYING.

Sources:  Governor.nc.gov, News Observer, YouTube

*****What New York Times, Huffington Post and other media outlets aren't saying about common-sense privacy law (HB 2)

1. Does the new bill limit or prohibit private sector companies from adopting their own nondiscrimination policies or practices?

• Answer: No. Businesses are not limited by this bill. Private individuals, companies and universities can adopt new or keep existing nondiscrimination policies.

2. Does this bill take away existing protections for individuals in North Carolina?

• Answer: No. In fact, for the first time in state history, this law establishes a statewide anti-discrimination policy in North Carolina which is tougher than the federal government’s. This also means that the law in North Carolina is not different when you go city to city. 

3. Can businesses and private facilities still offer reasonable accommodations for transgender people, like single occupancy bathrooms for instance?

• Answer: Yes. This bill allows and does nothing to prevent businesses, and public or private facilities from providing single use bathrooms. 

4. Can private businesses, if they choose, continue to allow transgender individuals to use the bathroom, locker room or other facilities of the gender they identify with, or provide other accommodations? 

• Answer: Yes. That is the prerogative of private businesses under this new law. For instance, if a privately-owned sporting facility wants allow attendees of sporting events to use the restroom of their choice, or install unisex bathrooms, they can. The law neither requires nor prohibits them from doing so.

5. Does this law prohibit towns, cities or counties in North Carolina from setting their own nondiscrimination policies in employment that go beyond state law?

• Answer: No. Town, cities and counties in North Carolina are still allowed to set stricter non-discrimination policies for their own employees if they choose.

6. Does this bill mean transgender people will always have to use the restroom of the sex of their birth, even if they have undergone a sex change? 

• Answer: No. This law simply says people must use the bathroom of the sex listed on their birth certificate. Anyone who has undergone a sex change can change their sex on their birth certificate.

7. I’m worried about how this new law affects transgender children or students in North Carolina. Does this bill allow bullying against transgender children in schools?

• Answer: Absolutely not. North Carolina law specifically prohibits bullying and harassing behavior against children on the basis of sexual identity. 

8. Does this bill affect people with disabilities?

• Answer: No. Statewide law also bans discrimination based on disability.

9. Why did North Carolina pass this law in the first place?

• Answer: The bill was passed after the Charlotte City Council voted to impose a regulation requiring businesses to allow a man into a women’s restroom, shower, or locker room if they choose. This ordinance would have eliminated the basic expectations of privacy people have when using the rest room by allowing people to use the restroom of their choice. This new local regulation brought up serious privacy concerns by parents, businesses and others across the state, as well as safety concerns that this new local rule could be used by people who would take advantage of this to do harm to others.

In fact, the Charlotte City Council tried to pass this ordinance before but failed, and passed the same ordinance in February of 2016 despite serious concerns from state officials, business leaders and other concerned citizens.

 10. What about parents or caregivers bringing children into the restroom?

• Answer: The law provides exceptions to young children accompanied by parents or care givers.

11. Will this bill threaten federal funding for public schools under Title IX?

• Answer: No, according to a federal court which has looked at a similar issue.

12. Will this bill prevent people from receiving medical attention in an emergency.

• Answer: Absolutely not. Nothing will prevent people from receiving medical attention in public or private accommodations. 

13. Will this bill affect North Carolina’s ability to create or recruit jobs?

• Answer: This bill does not affect companies in North Carolina. North Carolina was one of the top states to do business in the country before this law was passed, and preventing Charlotte’s bathroom ordinance from going into effect on April 1 won’t change that.

14. Why is the state telling cities and towns what it can and can’t do by repealing an ordinance the elected members of the Charlotte City Council passed?

• Answer: North Carolina is one of at least 37 states like Virginia where cities and towns cannot pass rules or regulations that exceed the authority given to them by the state. In passing the bathroom ordinance, Charlotte was exceeding its authority and setting rules that had ramifications beyond the City of Charlotte. The legislature acted to address privacy and safety concerns if this ordinance was allowed to go into effect on April 1. 

15. Do any other regulations in North Carolina cities, towns or counties come close to what Charlotte was recommending?

• Answer: No. Not that we are aware of. Therefore, nothing changes in North Carolina cities, towns and counties, including in Charlotte, regarding discrimination practices and protections now that this law has passed.

16. Did only Republicans vote for this bill?

• Answer: No. 11 Democrats voted for this bill in the N.C. House of Representatives and no Democratic Senators voted against it. In fact, Democratic Senators walked out to avoid voting on the issue at all because many were going to vote for it and they did not want show their division. 

17. Why did the Legislature call a special session to overturn the bathroom ordinance?

• Answer: The new Charlotte ordinance, which would have required all businesses to change their restroom policies and take away the expectation of privacy people have when using the restroom, was going to go into effect on April 1 if no action was taken.

18. Is North Carolina at a disadvantage when it comes to recruiting jobs because it does not have ordinances like the one Charlotte was proposing? 

• Answer: No. In fact in the last 3 years without an ordinance like this, North Carolina has created the 6th most jobs in the country – over 260,000 net new jobs. We know of no examples of companies being recruited to North Carolina that have asked if the state has an ordinance like the one Charlotte was proposing